Uerimanga Tjijombo
The Himbacracy Philosopher
Men Need Peace of
Mind To Get Married
I have remained silent for several days without
writing anything, but today I feel compelled to share a few thoughts from the
perspective of Himbacracy Philosophy. Please read this statement carefully, as
I want to express my opinion to the readers. As a philosopher, it is important
for me to offer my viewpoint based on the philosophical principles of
Himbacracy.
I would like to discuss why many men in Namibia choose
not to get married, particularly due to the behaviour of women who lack
cultural understanding and are more influenced by Western culture. Each
continent has its own distinct culture, and when individuals start embracing a
culture that is not native to their continent, they may compromise their own
cultural values as human beings within their own society.
Now, let me explain why men in Namibia are reluctant
to marry. There are two significant factors at play. The first is the issue of
aging and how it affects marriage. When women are young, they often seek
partners who are financially well-off, attractive, and come from influential
families. They may not consider other qualities as important because they
believe it is better to enjoy life while they are still young. However, when
they eventually decide to settle down, they realize that they are getting
older. By that time, the men they were interested in may have moved on or may
no longer be interested in them. This age disparity between men and women poses
a significant challenge, and it is culturally understood in our society. For
this reason, our culture discourages individuals of the same age from getting
married, as our elders have considered the aging aspect when forming such
traditions.
The second aspect I would like to address is peace of
mind, which is the real reason why men choose to marry. It is not solely based
on finding the most physically attractive or having the best sexual experiences
with a partner. A man decides to marry a woman when he believes she will bring
him a sense of peace and support him in pursuing his life goals. Sometimes, you
may observe a man who has been in a long-term relationship with a woman,
enjoying great intimacy and having a good time together, but he still chooses
not to marry her because she does not provide him with the feeling of stability
and peace of mind. However, when he meets another woman who fulfils these
emotional needs, he may marry her within a year, as he feels he has found his
home.
In our culture, there is a proverb in Otjiherero that
states "Kao ya nata Kaambi," which means circumstances are not the
same as before. Indeed, things have changed, but it does not imply that we must
completely abandon our traditions. We can adapt and integrate our culture with
new technologies, but we should preserve our core values. It is not necessary
to completely abandon our culture or imitate others.
Another saying in Otjiherero goes, "Wa ramba ombo
okakuze," which means the situation is beyond your capacity to effectively
deal. In such situations, individuals may seek what they believe are real men.
However, by the time they realize this, it may be too late because, in reality,
every man is a real man. The problem lies in the fact that women often perceive
a real man as someone who will fulfil their expectations and tasks. Instead,
men should simply be themselves and not be driven solely by external influences
or materialistic pursuits. True love does not depend on material possessions.
If genuine love truly existed, why women wouldn’t seek companionship with
cattle herders or those who possess no wealth or material possessions?
In conclusion, the reluctance of men to get married in
Namibia can be attributed to various factors such as cultural disparities,
aging, and the search for peace of mind. It is essential to understand and
respect different cultures while preserving our own values and traditions.
Uerimanga Tjijombo
The Himbacracy Philosopher
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